Answers: Because Everyone Has Questions, Right?
Coaching Is Different Than Therapy
You probably already know, Life Coaching is different than Psychotherapy. Working with a Life Coach towards your Goals, Dreams, and Aspirations is different than going into therapy with a therapist to dig into your past for years.
Both Life Coaching and Therapy are very useful and helpful modalities. They just have different goals, strategies, and life tools.
In Life Coaching, we focus on the back story, yes, only in order to focus better on your desires, dreams, and goals. They we collaborate to define those goals and you identify what are your greatest priorities and what actions you want to take, all at your own pace.
Often, you have goals and visions, and on your own alone, you can get stuck. There can be obstacles, barriers and beliefs holding you back. Working with me as your Life Coach, I’ll help you to identify and overcome and break free from the those. Everyone can benefit from a skilled sounding board. My job is to mirror things back to you and empower you to do it yourself. Sure, I can provide Mentoring to you when you specifically ask me for my suggestions and advice.
Without being too Type-A about things, Coaching with me is a Results-Oriented process that equips you.
Relationship Coaching:
Have you two ever discussed, agreed to and established healthy boundaries which foster the specialness of your relationship, distinct from all other relationships in your lives?
Your coupledom relationship is distinct and different, a special relationship unlike that with your children, step-children, and mother and father.
We’ll cover what boundaries you each seek and desire. Perhaps you’ll need some extended time to bring this up with your partner and move through discussing it in a non-threatening manner which supports the continuity and commitment of your relationship.
This could take 1 week or be sprinkled slowly over the course of a few months as you take it at your paces and integrate changes in ways and at the pace which honors and respects each of you. No ultimatums.
There are healthy boundaries which you each might think don’t even need to be specifically surfaced and discussed. And in actuality between the two of you, for whatever reasons, you do need to surface, talk about them, and negotiate.
It’s not about being right or being wrong.
This is not about placing blame.
Our friends will always chime in and support our side. That can be good for a little venting. But to support the health, intimacy, and commitment of your relationship, the blame game doesn’t foster love. It only fosters Being Right.
How about instead of Being Right, we aim to make our partners and ourselves GOOD?
I’ll explain that more during our sessions together. Just let it percolate in your creative brain and imagination.
Typically, one partner in the relationship comes to me first solo. Then, over time, the other partner chooses to work with me about your own life. Only when they each want a session together do we do a Couples Coaching session. Usually, each works with me directly solo and focuses on what you can do. As is said in Al-Anon: Keep the Focus on Yourself.
And you can tell there’s safety for each of your in my premise and approach that there is No Blame and it’s not about Being Right. Each can feel safe and respected that I’m not listening to your partner and encouraging any blaming or being right behavior.
Life Coaching and Goal Setting:
What do you want to achieve and accomplish this year? What’s been holding you back? Do you think you have some Limiting Beliefs which have posed insurmountable barriers and brick walls, keeping you from experiencing the success you deserve?
Do you self-value yourself enough to make your goals and aspirations a top priority for you?